It was late and dark this evening before I ventured out on my daily walk with a very encouraging puppy who was relentless in his eagerness to get me going. The usually bustling promenade was deserted as you’d expect at 8pm, except for a random skateboarder and one ocean gazer with his collie dog. Towards the end of the pathway, there was very little light as the street lamps seemed to be defunct.
I couldn’t help but consider how difficult it was to see the beauty of where I was walking because of the darkness and how the beauty still existed despite the darkness but once the night became day, that beauty was undeniable. Another analogy of our life experience before me.
For some time now, the very tangible metaphors for existence I see around me are often reflections of my own emotional state and give me opportunities to explore and dig deeper than usual into my psyche for answers and guidance. Life and it’s meaning has always occupied my mind and once again during my supposed head emptying walk this evening, my recent personal challenges and triumphs were to the forefront of my brain, inviting me to decipher and decode each one.
Young & Free
Heading back towards home, Toby got excited to greet a playful golden retriever and his owner who was a beautiful twenty year old girl called Gem. This is what happens when you have a dog, there’s an immediate understanding that there might be a chat and I’ve discovered over the years, that dog owners seem to get to the point quickly with their conversation as you never can tell if a row might break out with our canine friends.
So, about this young lady who inspired this post…… she and I had never met before but I knew her story very quickly. Odd as this may seem, I had a strong hunch she wanted to talk to me, when we stopped and furthermore, I had an even stronger feeling she needed someone to talk to. As it happened, the thoughts I had been pondering upon prior to our encounter were suddenly flowing from my mouth in the direction of this young student nurse, as though the universe had deliberately made me rehearse in anticipation of meeting this unassuming young woman.
Encouraged by her thirst for knowledge of how to find a boyfriend, I moved swiftly into mentor mode, outlining how it was of the utmost importance to –
- Love Yourself First, really love YOURSELF
- Accept yourself for who you are
- Forgive yourself if you’ve been mean
- Forgive those who’ve been mean to you
- Know that you are a Powerful Creator
- Be mindful of how misguided creative power can become destructive power
- You’re a spiritual being having a human experience above all else
- Follow Your intelligent heart, for it’s got your back
- Don’t LIE
- Always tell the TRUTH
- Find out who you were born to BE (Mandatory)
- Show up as a person who knows who she is, who knows what she’s got and watch the results of your search.
- Have fun
- Then all you have to do is CHOOSE wisely.
Bless her, I’m sure she felt overwhelmed by the successive quick trigger like releasing of my do’s and don’ts. She was very polite and appeared grateful and uplifted, I doubt I will ever know the outcome for this lovely lady but I hope in time, something I said was of value to her.
As I walked away, I found myself deliberating on my own twenty something year old self. I lived in the fast lane for much of my twenties, running from one party to the next and so on ……….looking for love. I didn’t know I needed to love myself first or that I was a creator, never mind any of other stuff I now consider to be compulsory and essential information for every child to know and embody.
Perhaps, I wouldn’t have wasted so much precious time being “heart-broken” when an inevitable relationship ended before the next disaster repeated itself. Maybe I would have celebrated those “endings” more and said “no” without fear of rejection. I might even have appreciated the really nice guys who always got kicked to the kerb.
Well one thing I know for sure, the clock is never going backwards, it’s full steam ahead for this older, wiser and love filled mama.
love pauline x